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Navigating Family Dynamics and Village Life: A Guide to Tactful Solutions

Q. My soon-to-be mother-in-law has started off-loading large amounts of her expensive but hideous cast-off clothes on to me. I don’t want them for many reasons, but we are moving into a much larger flat with lots of cupboards, so I can’t use limited space as a reason to reject them. She is not controlling, just tone-deaf. Can you help at all?

— Name and address withheld

A. Scroll through your contacts and source an impoverished and unchippy friend who would genuinely jump at the chance to refresh her wardrobe with these luxury cast-offs. Regale your mother-in-law with vivid hardship anecdotes about this friend, adding: ‘Incidentally, she is actually obsessed by you as a style model.’ Thereby you can gradually groom her to want to donate the clothing directly to this person, instead of to you.

Q. I have recently moved to an inland village where everyone gets on well but one village elder is something of a curmudgeon. I brought in a coastal plant called Alexanders, also known as horse parsley, from seed collected at my previous home in Anglesey, and was delighted to see two specimens had seeded and were standing proud in the village verges. This Roman potherb, which can often be found in the grounds of old monasteries and castles, is an excellent source of nectar for a very wide variety of pollinators and runs no risk of becoming invasive here, as the verges are mown by the council. I was devastated when I saw, from my window, the curmudgeon savagely beating them down with his walking stick.

Navigating Family Dynamics and Village Life: A Guide to Tactful Solutions Q. My soon-to-be mother-in-law has started off-loading large amounts of her expensive but hideous cast-off clothes on to me. I don’t want them for many reasons, but we are moving into a much larger flat with lots of cupboards, so I can’t use limited space as a reason to reject them. She is not controlling, just tone-deaf. Can you help at all? — Name and address withheld A. Scroll through your contacts and source an impoverished and unchippy friend who would genuinely jump at the chance to refresh her wardrobe with these luxury cast-offs. Regale your mother-in-law with vivid hardship anecdotes about this friend, adding: ‘Incidentally, she is actually obsessed by you as a style model.’ Thereby you can gradually groom her to want to donate the clothing directly to this person, instead of to you. Q. I have recently moved to an inland village where everyone gets on well but one village elder is something of a curmudgeon. I brought in a coastal plant called Alexanders, also known as horse parsley, from seed collected at my previous home in Anglesey, and was delighted to see two specimens had seeded and were standing proud in the village verges. This Roman potherb, which can often be found in the grounds of old monasteries and castles, is an excellent source of nectar for a very wide variety of pollinators and runs no risk of becoming invasive here, as the verges are mown by the council. I was devastated when I saw, from my window, the curmudgeon savagely beating them down with his walking stick.

The writer expresses frustration over their soon-to-be mother-in-law’s habit of gifting unwanted, expensive clothing. Despite moving into a larger flat, the writer is not interested in keeping these items and seeks a tactful way to decline them. The advice given is to find a friend in need who would appreciate the clothes, and to encourage the mother-in-law to donate directly to this friend, framing it as a charitable act.

In a separate scenario, the writer shares their experience of moving to a close-knit village where one elder stands out as a curmudgeon. They took pride in introducing a coastal plant, Alexanders, which benefits local pollinators and poses no threat of invasiveness. However, they were disheartened to witness the elder aggressively destroying the plants, highlighting a clash between their enthusiasm for nature and the elder’s negative demeanor.

Source:
www.spectator.co.uk
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Title: Meet the Jockeys of the 151st Kentucky Derby: A Blend of Experience and New Talent

The roster of accomplished jockeys for the 151st Kentucky Derby (G1) May 3 at Churchill Downs is expected to include six riders that have already won this race and five who are competing in the first leg of the Triple Crown for the first time. Let’s meet 20 of this year’s scheduled riders.

Junior Alvarado
Age: 38
Originally from: Venezuela
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 5
Best finish: 4th in 2016
2025 Derby horse: Sovereignty

One of the leading jockeys in New York and Florida, Junior Alvarado has perhaps his best shot at winning the Kentucky Derby with what will be his sixth starter in the race. He has been aboard Sovereignty for each of his starts save the last, a runner-up finish in the Florida Derby (G1). Alvarado missed that race due to a minor injury, but he’s back now and will pilot the Bill Mott-trained colt in the Derby.

Javier Castellano
Age: 47
Originally from: Venezuela
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 16
Best finish: 1st in 2023
2025 Derby horse: Owen Almighty

Hall of Famer Javier Castellano entered the 2023 Kentucky Derby having appeared 15 prior times without a win. By the evening of May 6, Castellano had put that discussion to bed after giving Mage a perfect ride to win the 149th Derby. This year, Castellano will ride Owen Almighty, winner of the Tampa Bay Derby (G3).

Manny Franco
Age: 30
Originally from: Puerto Rico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 5
Best finish: 2nd in 2020
2025 Derby horse: East Avenue

Manny Franco has established himself as a perennial leading jockey in the New York Racing Association circuit. He will ride East Avenue in this year’s Derby, likely using the colt’s speed to vie for the early lead.

Martin Garcia
Age: 40
Originally from: Mexico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 4
Best finish: 3rd in 2015
2025 Derby horse: Citizen Bull

Martin Garcia has earned a reputation as one of the best pace jockeys in the business. He will pilot Citizen Bull, who figures to be vying for frontrunner status again in the Kentucky Derby.

Brian Hernandez Jr.
Age: 39
Originally from: Lafayette, La.
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 5
Best finish: 1st in 2024
2025 Derby horse: Burnham Square

Brian Hernandez Jr. became the eighth jockey to win both the Kentucky Oaks and Derby in the same year. He’ll now have a chance to become the seventh to win back-to-back Kentucky Derbys aboard Burnham Square.

Nik Juarez
Age: 31
Originally from: Westminster, Md.
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 0
2025 Derby horse: American Promise

This will be a year to remember for Nik Juarez as he gets an opportunity to ride in the Kentucky Derby for the first time. He has recently settled at Oaklawn Park, where he has become one of the main jockeys for legendary Hall of Fame trainer D. Wayne Lukas.

Christophe Lemaire
Age: 45
Originally from: France
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 2
Best finish: 6th in 2023
2025 Derby horse: Admire Daytona

Christophe Lemaire has won some of the most prestigious races in the world and will compete in this year’s Derby aboard Admire Daytona, who earned his spot by winning the United Arab Emirates Derby (G2).

Julien Leparoux
Age: 41
Originally from: France
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 14
Best finish: 4th in 2017
2025 Derby horse: Render Judgment

Julien Leparoux has been a mainstay on the Kentucky circuit for almost 20 years. This year, he’ll be piloting longshot Render Judgment for trainer Ken McPeek.

Jareth Loveberry
Age: 37
Originally from: Mount Pleasant, Mich.
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 1
Best finish: 2nd in 2023
2025 Derby horse: Chunk of Gold

Will the second Kentucky Derby be the charm for Jareth Loveberry? He returns for another try aboard longshot Chunk of Gold.

Luan Machado
Age: 30
Originally from: Brazil
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 0
2025 Derby horse: Final Gambit

Riding horses is a family occupation for first-time Kentucky Derby jockey Luan Machado, who has won five meet titles at Turfway Park.

João Moreira
Age: 41
Originally from: Brazil
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 0
2025 Derby horse: Luxor Café

Nicknamed the "Magic Man," João Moreira has been a leading jockey in Hong Kong and will make his first start in the Kentucky Derby aboard Luxor Café.

Irad Ortiz Jr.
Age: 32
Originally from: Puerto Rico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 8
Best finish: 4th in 2019
2025 Derby horse: Publisher

Irad Ortiz Jr. is still in search of his first Kentucky Derby victory. This year he has his work cut out for him as he’s set to ride Publisher.

Jose Ortiz
Age: 31
Originally from: Puerto Rico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 9
Best finish: 2nd in 2018
2025 Derby horse: Sandman

Jose Ortiz has had more success in the Kentucky Derby than his brother Irad, finishing second aboard Good Magic in 2018. This year he will pilot Arkansas Derby winner Sandman.

Flavien Prat
Age: 32
Originally from: France
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 7
Best finish: 1st in 2019
2025 Derby horse: Neoequos and Baeza

Flavien Prat’s 2024 was one for the record books, and he has first preference to ride Baeza should he join the field.

Joseph Ramos
Age: 25
Originally from: Puerto Rico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 0
2025 Derby horse: Flying Mohawk

In his seventh year as a professional jockey, Joe Ramos has reached the big time with his first Kentucky Derby mount.

Umberto Rispoli
Age: 36
Originally from: Italy
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 2
Best finish: 9th in 2024
2025 Derby horse: Journalism

Umberto Rispoli has situated himself among the top tier of jockeys based in Southern California and will wear the favorite’s cap in the Kentucky Derby aboard Journalism.

Joel Rosario
Age: 40
Originally from: Dominican Republic
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 13
Best finish: 1st in 2013
2025 Derby horse: Tiztastic

Joel Rosario, a Racing Hall of Fame inductee, will put his finishing ability to the test this year aboard deep closer Tiztastic.

Mike Smith
Age: 59
Originally from: Dexter, N.M.
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 28
Best finish: 1st in 2005 and 2018
2025 Derby horse: Rodriguez

Mike Smith returns to the Kentucky Derby for the first time since 2022, looking to add to his impressive record.

Juan Vargas
Age: 43
Originally from: Peru
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: none
2025 Derby horse: Coal Battle

Juan Vargas has been a fixture in Louisiana and is now carrying the "little guy" banner into Kentucky Derby 151.

John Velazquez
Age: 54
Originally from: Puerto Rico
Previous rides in the Kentucky Derby: 26
Best finish: 1st in 2011, 2017, and 2020
2025 Derby horse: Grande

John Velazquez has reached every professional pinnacle imaginable for a jockey and will regain the mount aboard Grande in the Kentucky Derby.

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Title: Understanding Maine’s Window Tint Laws: What You Need to Know Before Tinting Your Vehicle

While getting your vehicle’s windows tinted can serve many different purposes, it’s important to know that there are laws associated with it here in Maine.

Getting your car windows tinted can help block out UV rays, keep the inside of your car cooler, and add an extra layer of privacy. Some folks also choose tinting for protection against shattered glass in case of an accident, or simply to make their car look more stylish.

With that in mind, how exactly do we know what the legal window tint is in Maine—and why are there laws about it in the first place?

When it comes to figuring out what’s legal for window tinting in Maine, it’s not just a guess — it’s clearly outlined by the Maine Legislature in Title 29-A: Motor Vehicles and Traffic, Chapter 17: Equipment, Subchapter 1: General Provisions. These laws are put in place to promote safety and visibility on the road, and they’re publicly available for anyone to review through official state resources.

Now that we’ve addressed that, let’s dive right into the question: is your window tint legal, and what can be done if it’s not?

According to the Maine Legislature, vehicles registered in Maine cannot have reflective windows, heavily tinted front windshields, or side and rear windows that block more than 65% of light.

Windows in the front and next to rear passengers must allow a relatively clear view both into and out of the vehicle. Exceptions are made for official documents, manufacturer labels, tinting at the top strip of the windshield, and vehicles with medical exemptions granted by the Chief of the State Police.

Additionally, darker tinting is allowed on windows behind the driver and on the rear window if the vehicle has two properly adjusted side mirrors. These rules are meant to keep drivers safe and maintain visibility for law enforcement and others on the road.

Again, the tint on your vehicle’s windows must allow at least 35% of visible light to pass through for it to be considered legal.

Did you know about these window tint laws in Maine? Does your vehicle have any window tint? We’d love to hear from you! Feel free to join the conversation by messaging us on the app.

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